Finding Love After Divorce: Why Your Compass Still Points True
By Stefani Seek
Divorce can feel like the end of a story you never thought would end. Suddenly, you’re standing at a crossroads—wanting companionship, but uncertain if love is still possible for you. As a coach and author of Your Love Compass: A Woman’s Unconventional Guide to Dating & Relationships, I want you to know this: love is not behind you. It’s still ahead, waiting for you to claim it!
The biggest myth I see is the idea that “it’s too late” or “I’m too much.” My clients—many divorced, some raising children, all navigating heartbreak—often arrive with those fears. But here’s the truth: you are not too much, and you are not too late. You are simply being invited to approach love differently this time.
Think of dating after divorce as navigating with a compass, not a GPS. A GPS tells you exactly where to turn. A compass points you to True North—your values, your authenticity, and the love you truly deserve. Instead of chasing validation on dating apps or trying to mold yourself into what you think someone else wants, begin by aligning with your own compass.
Ask yourself:
What do I value most in a relationship at this stage of my life?
How do I want to feel in my next relationship?
What kind of partnership empowers me to feel safe, cherished, and fully myself?
Am I dating from a place of fear and scarcity, or from confidence and worthiness?
When you write out your answers to these questions, you stop chasing love and start attracting it. One of my clients, a 45-year-old mother of four, thought her dream partner didn’t exist. Within months of shifting her beliefs and aligning with her compass, she met the man who became her husband.
Your next chapter in love isn’t about fixing what was “wrong” with you. It’s about discovering your true self and letting love meet you there.
This article was written by Stefani Seek and featured in the Fall 2025 issue of Life Changes & Divorce Magazine Canada.
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Meet the Author - Stefani Seek
Stefani Seek is a Love & Life Coach and author of Your Love Compass: A Woman’s Unconventional Guide to Dating & Relationships. She helps divorced and single women attract healthy, lasting love by dating with authenticity and intention.
Learn more about her books & programs at www.StefaniSeek.com
You can email her directly at: stefaniseekauthor@gmail.com
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